SHEILA O'NEILL | Family Lunch – Oct. 14, 2017

L to R: David Hall, Brian Pigott, Jack Ray on the terrace of High Elms Manor before

the family lunch in memory of Sheila Marlin O'Neill. All photos by JT Marlin.

L to R: Sue Hall, Jill Ray, Sita Pigott.

Table 7. Lis and Cliff Paice and Sheila Petrie Leech.

L to R: Sheila Petrie Leech, Jack Ray, Randal Marlin
 (in back) at the lunch at High Elms Manor.

October 14, 2017 – The family lunch on Saturday was in the same room at High Elms Manor as the funeral reception the day before.

It is also the room where the funeral reception was held for Hilda van Stockum Marlin in November 2006. Quite a few of the people who attended today were at the previous memorial meal eleven years ago.
A special guest today was Sheila Petrie Leech, one of Sheila's life-long friends from the days in 1951-54 when we lived in Blackrock and Dalkey in the Dublin area.

                   Table 5. Montessori School table.

Lis was the last member of the family to talk with Sheila before she died, and Lis was asked to make special mention of Sheila Leech at the memorial service as someone as someone she remembered with special fondness, along with Hazel Irwin and Eithne O'Neill, who were not able to attend the memorial events.

Table 5. Montessori teachers.

Whereas the High Elms Montessori School was most visibly represented by many pupils at the Funeral Mass, today the school was represented by a table full of teachers and others involved in running the school.

Jonathan Willoughby and Phoenix Hawkins-O'Neill.

Jonathan Willoughby and Phoenix Hawkins-O'Neill performed a reprise of the song that she sang and he accompanied on the guitar at the Crematorium service.

The song was "Singing Angel" by Sarah McLachlan.

The acoustics were superior today at High Elms Manor and I was able to make out more of the words of the lovely song than yesterday.

The last two lines are:

You're in the arms of the angel

May you find some comfort here.

Ailise, 

, Catrine O'Neill.

Table 4

Two Friends of Ailise, Ailise O'Neill.

Table 7. Brian Pigott, Brigid Marlin, Lis Paice. Note that the catering staff member was
moving around so fast she appears as a blur.

L to R: Sita Pigott, Brigid Marlin, David Hall on the terrace of High Elms Manor.

Table 7. Jack and Jill Ray, Sita Pigott.

Jonathan Willoughby and sister
Janet Willoughby.

Old Movies, Inside.

Angela and Vojislav Mihailovic.

Pianist.

Table 4

, Anna.

Anthony Newell, Gini Zdesar.

Other Posts: Sheila O'Neill, R.I.P. . Sheila's Funeral

Name Index, Family Lunch

Blanchard-O’Neill, Oscar

Hall, David

Hall, Sue

Hawkins-O’Neill, Phoenix

High Elms Manor

High Elms Montessori School

Hilton-O'Neill, Cian

Hilton-O’Neill, Fin

Marlin, Brigid

Marlin, Elaine O’Brien

Marlin, Hilda van Stockum

Marlin, John Tepper

Marlin, Olga

Marlin, Randal

Marlin, Sheila

Mihailovic, Alex

Mihailovic, Angela

Mihailovic, Vojislav

Newell, Anthony

Northcott, Max

O'Neill, Ailise

O'Neill, Catrine

O'Neill, Liadain

O'Neill, Roisin

O’Neill, Sheila Marlin

Oakley, Desmond

Paice, Cliff

Paice, Lis

Petrie, Sheila

Pigott, Brian

Pigott, Sita

Ray, Jack

Ray, Jill

van Stockum, Hilda

Willoughby-O’Neill, Zodiac

Willoughby, Janet

Willoughby, Jonathan

Zdesar, Gini

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Name Index, Family Lunch

Blanchard-O’Neill, Oscar

Hall, David

Hall, Sue

Hawkins-O’Neill, Phoenix

High Elms Manor

High Elms Montessori School

Hilton-O'Neill, Cian 

Hilton-O’Neill, Fin 

Marlin, Brigid

Marlin, Elaine O’Brien

Marlin, Hilda van Stockum

Marlin, John Tepper

Marlin, Olga

Marlin, Randal

Marlin, Sheila

Mihailovic, Alex

Mihailovic, Angela

Mihailovic, Vojislav

Newell, Anthony

Northcott, Max

O'Neill, Ailise

O'Neill, Catrine

O'Neill, Liadain

O'Neill, Roisin

O’Neill, Sheila Marlin

Oakley, Desmond

Paice, Cliff

Paice, Lis

Petrie, Sheila

Pigott, Brian

Pigott, Sita

Ray, Jack

Ray, Jill

van Stockum, Hilda

Willoughby-O’Neill, Zodiac 

Willoughby, Janet

Willoughby, Jonathan

Zdesar, Gini

SHEILA O'NEILL | Her Daughters and Grands

L to R: Liadain (Lili), Ailise, Catrine and Roisin
O'Neill, at Catrine's famed pink wedding, July 18, 1992.

October 4, 2017–Sheila Marlin O'Neill (1939-2017) is the first of the six children of Hilda van Stockum and Spike Marlin to join her parents in the next life.

She was the third daughter in the family, sandwiched between the two boys – a rose between two thorns.

In The Mitchells trilogy, Sheila's fictionalized name was Angela.

Sheila's 23-acre 63-room High Elms Manor and school in Garston, Herts., was the focus of a Ruth Watson Country House Rescue series, largely about how the upkeep of the large estate could be made sustainable, i.e., generate enough money to pay for the cost of maintaining it.

Front row,  L to R: Catrine, Lili and a Friend.
Second row, L to R: Alice, Roisin, Sheila.

High Elms Manor developed new events and programs with the help of Sheila's four daughters.

The plan worked and the Manor and Manor Montessori School have been spruced up. I was impressed with what had been done there last year when I was there.

Sheila is now gone, and the daughters are in charge of the funeral for their mother. It will be on October 13. I plan to be there with three other siblings, Sheila's four daughters and seven grandchildren. For those attending the funeral or trying to keep track of the family from a distance, I have prepared he following simplified family tree as a start on appreciating this fruitful branch of the Marlin family.

Death Notice, October 4, 2017, Hemel Hempstead Gazette. 

O'Neill, Sheila. Passed away on 25th September 2017, aged 77 years. Principal of Marlin Montessori School, Berkhamsted, Herts. Funeral service to take place on Friday 13th October at 1.30 pm at St Saviour's Church, Abbots Langley, followed by a committal at West Herts Crematorium at 3.20 pm. 

Flowers may be sent to: High Elms Manor, High Elms Lane, Watford, Hertfordshire WD25 0JX, UK. Phone: +44 1923 663875.

If you would like to donate to the family's chosen charity please write a cheque to Save The Children and post it to the funeral director's address: James Peddle Ltd., 10 Moneyhill Parade,  Uxbridge Road,  Rickmansworth WD3 7BE.

See also: Visit to Watford . Sheila's Death

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